Check out the beginning of the story here.
So first, I started contacting foster care agencies. Honestly, I went with the one we’re with now because they:
1. responded first
2. we know people who are licensed through them, and we were told that since they are smaller, there are less problems that the bigger agencies have.
One of the things we have to do is get licensed through foster care through the state. None of the things are difficult, it’s just a long list. We had just been through a lot of this in September, so at least we have practice.
Mine expired a few months ago, so I took a free one. I could choose between an 8 hour course or a 6 hour one, so you know what I picked. (Although the card I got says “First Aid & CPR by Susan” so I’m not sure how official that is.)
-online med training
Super fun, obviously. Eric has his CMA and I have done this training a couple times, but I guess refreshers are good. It was honestly the most in-depth med class I have taken.
– Universal Precautions
Summary: don’t touch blood.
-references, application, background checks, car checks, house walk through, fingerprinting
Boring and took forever.
Then we dove straight into this bad boy:
“Trauma Informed Partnering for Permanence and Safety, A Program to Prepare Families for Fostering and Adoption”
or “TIPS-Deciding Together” for short. The first book is called: “Understanding Foster Care and Adoption Today” and it was 142 pages long…it’s book one of six!
We got this warning about the class: “It gets pretty intense, so it might bring some stuff up.” So that got us real excited to get started.
The point of the books is to get us thinking about what it really means to become a foster parent, so it’s full of different scenarios and then lots of questions for us to answer.
I felt like Mark got a bad rap.
The books are really overwhelming until we actually would sit down and start working on them. If we just concentrated for a good couple of hours then we would be done.
They get a little cheesy. At one point it said something like, “Wow! That was hard! Now stand up and say the alphabet backwards? Get stuck? Turn around! Now it’s backwards!”
And there was an odd “imagination journey” where they wanted you to basically meditate and immerse yourself in the story. They spent two pages preparing me for this story.
One of the main things I realized from doing the books was that I need to work on having more empathy for birth parents. It would be difficult to be supportive of parents who abuse their child to the point of them having to be removed from the home. I understand that things happen and people lose their temper…but being asked to work with certain types of parents or send the child back to a family who did unspeakable things to them…yuck. That’s going to be hard.
But basically, we are still trucking along, trying to get everything done soon!